Just Communicate, dammit! Part 1
I consider myself quite proficient at communicating,
particularly during an argument.
This might not seem like the most appropriate thing to be
proud of, but let me explain.
I was having a chat with my co-hosts about women in
relationships and how, for the most part, they just don’t know how to have a
healthy argument. They don’t speak their
minds, for a start.
How many guys
reading this have asked their girl what’s wrong and got a restrained ‘Nothing!’
as a reply, only to have her read you the riot act hours later?
Here’s the thing, ladies.
Men aren’t mind readers.
He might have seriously pissed you off, for whatever
reason. Maybe you had a bad day at
work. Maybe your hormones are doing ekitaguriro and your whole system just
feels off. Maybe that last episode of
Being Mary Jane got you riled up because you hate the way David keeps wrecking
her head.
Then your man goes and says or does something so stupid you
literally feel your blood boil. If you
don’t tell him, HE WON’T KNOW. If he
asks you what’s wrong, and you try to act like everything is ok, he’s just
going to roll over and go to sleep, or go back to flicking channels and staring
blankly at the TV.
(Incidentally, what IS it with men and the bloody
remote? All that channel-flicking drives
me insane. But I digress).
So he has gone back to scratching his balls or whatever it
is he was doing when he stopped to ask you what’s up, and you sit there fuming
that he hasn’t worked out why you’re
pissed off. And instead of telling him
what’s wrong and sorting it out once and for all, you sulk, and refuse to give
up the cookie later on that night. And
what have you solved?
Nothing.
All you have gained is an extra ulcer, and
possibly a penis-shaped indentation in the small of your back.
Personally, I prefer to say exactly what is bugging me, when
it is bugging me. It doesn’t always end
well, but at least I don’t end up with stomach ulcers because I’ve been stewing
over the issue and trying to act like everything is hunky-dory. And once I’ve told you, that’s it. No need to drag it up again.
Just communicate, dammit. It’s
easier in the long run.
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